20-40-60 Rule

 

What we think of ourselves is vitally important to the success of any endeavour. We move forward or backwards grounded in our own estimation of self. Or at least we think we do. However, many times those judgments are not based on who we think we are, but instead fall into the category of 'who others think we are'. We all know that someone else's opinion is of little consequence in our daily lives, yet, we rely on these external views, real or imagined, to fortify our public demeanour and actions.

Much of this reaction to exterior views has to do with age and maturity which follows a basic psychological pattern sometimes referred to as the 20 - 40 - 60 rule.

At 20, your life revolves around an obsession of what others think of you.

At 40, you begin to not care what others think of you.

And at 60, you realise that when you were younger, you really weren't being judged at by anyone but yourself and no-one was thinking of you at all!

Maybe we need to all be 60.

Take a moment, no matter what your age, to be 60.

Bristol pics

 

 

CV5 Clipper 68 Gold Coast from Derry

The Derry Clipper Sailing Training.  The LegenDerry clipper was out of service so we used the winning boat from the Gold Coast to do the 3 day trip along the north coast of Ireland.

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Wisdom of the World... 2 this week

Can I Help?

As soon as he opened the church, a priest saw a woman come in, sit in the front pew and place her head between her hands. Two hours later, he noticed that the woman was still there, in the same position.

Concerned, he decided to approach her.

"Can I do anything for you?” he asked.

"No, thanks,” she answered. “I was already getting all the help I needed when you interrupted me.”

Covering the Sun With One's Hand

A disciple went to Rabbi Nachman of Bratslav:

"I shall not continue with my studies of sacred texts," he said. "I live in a small house with my brothers and parents, and never have the ideal conditions for concentrating on that which is important."

Nachman pointed to the sun and asked his disciple to place his hand over his face, in order to hide it. The disciple obeyed.

"Your hand is small, yet it can completely cover the power, light and majesty of the great sun. In the same way, the small problems manage to give you the excuse you need in order to hinder your progress along your spiritual journey.

Just as your hand has the power to hide the sun, mediocrity has the power to hide your inner light. Do not blame others for your own incompetence.”

Wisdom of the World - The Guy in the Glass

The Guy in the Glass

When you get what you want in your struggle for self,

And the world makes you King for a day,

Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,

And see what that guy has to say.

For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,

Who judgement upon you must pass.

The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life

Is the guy staring back from the glass.

He's the fellow to please, never mind all the rest,

For he's with you clear up to the end,

And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test

If the guy in the glass is your friend.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,

And get pats on the back as you pass,

But your final reward will be heartaches and tears

If you've cheated the guy in the glass.

by Dale Wimbrow, (c) 1934

Wisdom of the World -week 169

Co-operate

I read a statement once that best describes the attitudes of some people.  It says, “I love the world. It’s the people I can’t stand”.  Some people seem to derive endless pleasure by saying NO to almost anything.

But such people do not go far. They may sit in committees and boars by virtue of their seniority or them being a partner, but they hat working as a team. When they do, they almost always want their opinion to be accepted.

Remember, if the world is your home, its human beings you’ve got to live with!